This situation your are in, you know, the one that keeps you up or wakes you up at night. It might even be the one that makes you want to sleep during the day, especially when a decision is needed. As you consider this situation, you might want to ask yourself what approach – emotional or intellectual, or a synergy of both – would offer up a variety of choices about how to move forward?
The more choices or options we can brainstorm for ourselves, the more we set in motion the likelihood of arriving at a “good choice for now” moment. You can always change your mind, or challenge yourself to get more creative in another future moment.
We all know a sedentary lifestyle is deadly. So is one devoid of choice or the belief that we are not strong enough or smart enough to create more choice for ourselves.
I think that’s reason some brilliant educator created multiple choice questions. They are a metaphor for how you might approach any problem or obstacle you are wrestling with.
I remember how most of my school mates hated them until I taught them how I approached them. “Answer each choice as a true or false question, and the minute one is false, “all of the above” does not count and you can narrow down the remaining options to determine the most suitable answer”. Sometimes the lightbulb went off really fast and sometimes, not so much. I remember a classmate saying to me once “but it’s a multiple choice question not a true or false question”.
Sadly, I imagine she is still living in a world where there are very few choices and making one remains a problem.
So here’s a prompt: fast foreword to 5 years from now and look back at who you are today. What choice are you going to make soon that your future self will look back at and say “I am proud that my younger self knew to make that choice. Look where it got me today. Thank you for being brave and for paying attention. I am in a better place because you made that choice”.
Get busy wrapping your emotional body or your mental body, or some combination of both, around any situation or circumstance you want to move to its next position on the spiral of life.
And then, let the energy of the spiral help move you forward, until you get to the heart of the matter.